Michael Being Accountable

Michael,

   I hear you brother and feel your pain. I started masturbating when I was 11 years old and I didn't think that I was hurting anyone or since it wasn't in the bible then It was ok to do it. Well after time I found out that it was hurting everyone. When I was with a girl sexually I was some what satisfied but once she was gone I had to masturbate so I could be forfilled. That and I also watch porn and envisioned the actresses in my mind instead of the person that I was with. But you don't look at porn so we don't have to worry about that. But masturbating will follow you even when you marry. Sexual intimatacy should be between a man and woman. Not man and hand. That is saying that you care about self more than what God has bless you to enjoy when you are with someone. And I know that you said that you have never had a GF and see why you need to masturbate and to release that sexual tension.

   Well let me tell you that I am in Afghanastan right now, away from my wife and family. Talk about sexual build up. I'm stressed at work and sexually frustrated and I can rub one out everyday but with God with me in my heart and wanting to please him, I haven't masturbated in 47 days. There is no way I would of made it if it wasn't because of his loving grace. I pray everynight that my dreams are not invaded by Satan's lust of the flesh and to not lead me into temptation but delievery me from evil. It may seem very hard now but as you keep on progressing it gets easier. And you said that there is nothing in the Bible about masturbation, which is true but it says that we should take our living temples (our bodies) and make them holy and pleasing to God. For a while I didn't know what that meant until recently. It means that we need to keep our bodies (God's temple) clean from any impurities of the flesh and to make it please and welcoming for God to live inside of us. Once we start living for him and honoring him in everything we do, he will bless us with what we need.

 I am speaking only from personal experience and what I am going through right now. I'm in the possiblity of getting a divorce when I get back from this deployment, because of Porn and masturbation. There is nothing I can do to show my wife that I am changing since I am here but I can change for myself and be that man God want's me to be. I still have a lot of work to do but maybe we can help each other. I will be happy to be your accountability partner, so long as you don't mind me responding when the internet is working properly. I hope what I said makes sense to you. Take care brother.

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SGT Logan

Hey man,
I've found myself agreeing with what you've said. I want to be where God wants me to be. I'm trying to cut back and maybe quit my masturbation habit. I could use someone to be accountable to.

Logan.

Recent progress (reducing this habit) convinces me that it's possible to do without.

Hello Mike.

Thanks very much. It has proved to be much easier to do without than I had anticipated.  Age may also be a factor - now middle-aged.