Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2011 7:27:59 GMT -7
:X I am a survivor of child sex abuse and a witness of my offender going through therapy for sex addiction and coming to me apologizing and turning his life around.
Now that brings one to my adult life. I guess I have not fully healed from that abuse because I married first a physically abusive man, and now a man who is addicted to sex. A year into our marriage he started to go after my daughter and I had to report him to authority. He ended up in jail, therapy, and is now living with his mother. It has been four years and everything that he has tried to get past this has not helped him. I came to the conclusion I could not stay married to him, but then I started to reach out on the internet, to find out info for my healing but have found a lot of information on his problem too. Right now I am iffy about the divorce, he really is a good man if he does not have temptations around him, ie my daughter, or porn. The information I found on the internet all leads to my husband has a void in his heart that sex fulfills for him, and God is the only one who can fill that void and really get rid of his draw to sex. That he needs to make the choice to let God fill that void, no one can make that choice for him, no counseling, talking or anything can get him to make that choice. He just has to hit a place in his life that he sees no other place to turn than to God. So me being married to him and protecting him from his own consequences is not helping him get to that place in his life. Plus I have learned that he can not combat his addiction without other men around that understand and care, someone who keep him accountable. I also have found that for my healing I need the same thing. I was hoping to find that here as there are no groups for this in my area.
Now that brings one to my adult life. I guess I have not fully healed from that abuse because I married first a physically abusive man, and now a man who is addicted to sex. A year into our marriage he started to go after my daughter and I had to report him to authority. He ended up in jail, therapy, and is now living with his mother. It has been four years and everything that he has tried to get past this has not helped him. I came to the conclusion I could not stay married to him, but then I started to reach out on the internet, to find out info for my healing but have found a lot of information on his problem too. Right now I am iffy about the divorce, he really is a good man if he does not have temptations around him, ie my daughter, or porn. The information I found on the internet all leads to my husband has a void in his heart that sex fulfills for him, and God is the only one who can fill that void and really get rid of his draw to sex. That he needs to make the choice to let God fill that void, no one can make that choice for him, no counseling, talking or anything can get him to make that choice. He just has to hit a place in his life that he sees no other place to turn than to God. So me being married to him and protecting him from his own consequences is not helping him get to that place in his life. Plus I have learned that he can not combat his addiction without other men around that understand and care, someone who keep him accountable. I also have found that for my healing I need the same thing. I was hoping to find that here as there are no groups for this in my area.