As if the photos weren't bad enough....

Dear LadyP,

I'm so sorry your wounds have been ripped open anew. It sounds as if you've not searched the hard drive of his computer for all pictures. May I suggest that you do that to see what else you might find? My addict had hidden pictures in the systems files. I found them by searching the hard drive using the search command and typing "*.jpg" in the search box. That should bring up all files that end in ".jpg" which is a common extension for photographs.

I also suspect that my addict had/has links stored in Word documents. Maybe pictures too. This isn't a fool proof method of finding all the smut, but searching using the wildcard "*" followed by ".jpg" should bring up the pictures that end in .jpg.

They are crafty at hiding things, but stupid at the same time, aren't they? Didn't he swear he'd told you everything? Argh. He's now destroyed what little trust you may have regained.

You are righteously angry, mad, bitter, resentful...all of it. I don't mean to suggest for an instant that your feelings are wrong or unjustified....not for an instant. I am concerned about what these feelings do to our bodies long term. Please find a way to dissipate the anger. I punch my trainers hands while lifting weights. This is what I've found that helps me. Please, find something to relieve the anger as soon as possible.......not for his sake (he can rot), but for your sake and for the sake of your physical and mental health.

Please take care of yourself....please.....hugs from across the pond.........

My best, DW

NOTE TO ADDICTS: With every sequential disclosure that occurs after you've "told her absolutely everything," you put another nail in the coffin of the marriage. If you are serious about saving the marriage, you can't do this. These sequential disclosures absolutely DESTROY the marriage.