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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2011 18:12:05 GMT -7
I am new here, and thank God i found you all. I have been living with an intimacy anorexic and lust addict for 20 years. We have had major blow out fights screaming and yelling crying physical fights over his lusting for other women at work, At the beach, Water parks, my ftornds! And of course internet porn.
But he always lied and or apoligizrd cried said he woyld be better foxus on me and noone else, blah blah blah.
I just recemtly caught him on a porn site and found emails to women at work and something called lust.com.
I found this i guess with Gods guidance, so i started searching about porn addiction and my world finally made sense!
He says he is commited to recovery getting a new job but i am sceptical. I am gibing it until January and then i am calling it quits.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2011 1:24:42 GMT -7
Dear Need2bFree,
Welcome......I'm sorry you find a need to be here........but welcome. Setting firm decision deadlines strikes me as sound practice. It's easy to diddle away your life while you wait for him to change. Heaven knows I've diddled away 25 years of my life.
I've only recently found the name for "intimacy anorexia" and I spoke to a therapist trained in intimacy anorexia this week. She seemed to suggest that intimacy anorexia cannot be fixed. I have another appointment with her next week, and I want to clarify that point with her. The porn addiction is a symptom, I believe, of the underlying intimacy disorder. As I get clarification, I will post what I've learned.
Again, welcome.......may you find the support you need here.
My best, DW
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2011 3:47:34 GMT -7
Thank you DW i need all the info and support i can get! And yes i too have let 10 years go by waiting for change but didnt know what i was exactly dealing with. Now i finally do! And yes i agree its the fear of intimacy ultimately screwing up these people.
And can that be fixed???
Thanks,
Gina
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