Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2011 16:44:18 GMT -7
Has anyone done this after your husband started recovery? In the first year he wanted to do it, as Carnes and others recommend a "drying out period" for recovery. I was in a place where I needed constant reassurance and when I wasn't avoiding him, yelling at him, or hitting him (once or twice), I wanted physical touch for comfort. Probably not that healthy, but hey, what is a healthy way to handle finding out your husband of nine years is a sex addict when you had NO idea? Anyway, after three years I decided I wanted to give it a try, 30 days to start and leave it open ended. I have heard others say it helped increase intimacy etc. My husband was on board, as he had wanted it from the beginning, but a week in he is starting to have a very bad time. He says he is in physical pain and is almost writhing at times. He started kissing me last night and I went with it, testing him. I wasn't going to give in, but wanted to see if he could stop. I told him it was up to him and I would go along with it if he needed it that badly (I know, that was terrible of me). And he did stop! He really wants to get through this, but my heart is breaking for him. I am NOT giving in, but have any of you done this? Does it get easier. It's actually not that easy for me either (I have always had a fairly high sex drive), but I'll survive, lol.