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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2011 22:15:23 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2011 1:57:59 GMT -7
Dear LadyP,
The good days/bad days roller coaster is pretty typical. I am less and less enamoured of professional help. To be truly effective, you have to find a therapist that is trained in the trauma model. It is my understanding that those are few and far between. The vast majority of therapists are trained that we, the wives/partners of sex addicts, are "do-dependent" simply by virtue of being married to a sex addict. We are labeled because of THEIR addiction. That's not helpful. The first therapist I saw took this approach and completely ignored my pain.
I think you have found one of the best sources of support, here. I would also urge you to find a 12 step group for wives/partners. They can be tremendously helpful because you can meet and talk with women who are experiencing the same things. They are free/supported by free-will offerings. Many of them do take the co-addict approach to the wife. If you can ignore that portion of it, and use the group for the fellowship that occurs after the formal meeting adjourns, I think that would also provide you with some support.
Please take care, DW
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