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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2011 9:13:46 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2011 10:21:07 GMT -7
Praying...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2011 6:12:53 GMT -7
Dear LadyP,
Please take care of yourself throughout this turbulent time. I think that feeling like you are on a rollercoaster is normal at this stage. Please make sure your kids are taken care of, but also make sure that any deficit of self-care is rectified. You need to take care of you.......
I stopped feeling like I was on a roller coaster only after I took charge and took control. I have a hard time discerning cause and effect......maybe I had healed to the point I could take charge and take control, and the feeling of being on a rollercoaster subsided as a result of the healing........or maybe the roller coaster of emotions subsided simply because I took control and took charge of caring for myself in ways that I'd neglected......llike exercising. For me, it took a good year and a half before I felt somewhat like myself again.
The realization that hit me and spurred me into action is this: The only person you can depend on in this life is YOU. This realization really hit me after I saw my husband falling down drunk, bashing his head off the wall. I think it is easy to believe that sex addiction isn't really addiction....that they aren't really out of control/can't control themselves. But addiction is addiction is addiction. seeing him out of control with alchohol brought that home for me. Maybe it might help to imagine your husband out of control drunk.
The only person you can count on is you. The only person you can control is you. Take care of your kids, but make sure you take care of you and work on you. If you can see concrete, forward progress in your own life, it helps with the rollercoaster ride...or at least it helped me.
My best, DW
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