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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2010 9:29:41 GMT -7
I have been struggling with P/MB ever since i was about fifteen... I am now 23, and even though i have tried to stop several times, i have always fallen back into it... I have tried memorizing scriptures and reading my bible, and praying, but i always seem to fail again... I am tired of failing over and over again... I need someone to be accountable to... Someone that knows what I am going through...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2010 11:12:26 GMT -7
hi Fighting,
Have you identified the legitimate need(s) that you are filling in this illegitimate way? Until you dig up the roots, the thornbush will keep growing back, with or without accountability.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2010 23:35:31 GMT -7
Welcome! For me, the 12-step fellowships have offered personal accountability and fellowship and guidance and hope. Professional counseling has also been critical. After all, we need more than accountability. We need to learn a whole new way of life. Because addiction, and especially this addiction, is all about isolation, I think it's awfully important to find support locally, among real people with whom you can interact. I also think it's important to get at least some of that support from fellow addicts who understand what we go through and who se through our self-delusion. A few links that might contain useful resources are saa-recovery.org/slaafws.org/sa.org/sca-recovery.org/slaaonline.org/internationalslaaonline.org/www.iitap.com/May you do well finding what you seek! Tim M. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2010 9:43:07 GMT -7
I guess im not sure really what you mean... What needs would i have that i would be filling with this illegitimate thing?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2010 9:44:09 GMT -7
Ok, Thank you so much for the Advise!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2010 6:40:31 GMT -7
Hi Fighting,
Needs might include comfort, security, acceptance, escape from stress, etc. Is it really just boredom, or the thrill of the forbidden? (You don't need to answer that here.) Identifying why this is a part of your life is a key to being free from it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2010 4:31:39 GMT -7
I guess im not sure really what you mean... What needs would i have that i would be filling with this illegitimate thing? For me, my compulsive sexual behavior is about beliefs that I am inadequate physically, socially and sexually. It's about a deep belief that only by hiding emotionally from other people behind a wall of logic and intellectualism can I be safe. Legitimate needs that get mixed in with my addictive behavior include needs for love and acceptance and a need to perceive myself as acceptable and OK. That's a very quick summary of a bunch of years of reflection and therapy. None of those needs are things I would have been able to see and articulate at the start of my recovery. I did not have a clue how much my life was dominated by fears - fears I had hidden from so completely that I didn't know they were there. I think that's the sort of thing truthseeker is talking about. Answering her question is, I think, an important part of getting better; but answering her question is also likely to be the fruit of months or years of work with yourself and with other people, at least if you're like me. Tim M. |
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