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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2010 19:03:11 GMT -7
hi,
i'm 24 years old, married for 2 and 1/2 years now to a beautiful girl. No children yet. I'm actually deployed to iraq right now, so the whole porn thing is hard to stay away from here. I struggled with porn and masturbation even after becoming a Christian about 4 years ago, and after my wife and i were first married, i hid it from her. I eventually ended up telling her about it, and we've tried to deal with it, but it's not easy. my father was the very emotionally cut-off when i was growing up. i think that probably has something to do with it. just wanting some relief from this constant battle. any suggestions or help would be awesome. thanks
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2010 1:43:25 GMT -7
Hi Shredder,
I think you are on the right track about your relationship with your father possibly being involved. If it is, I pray that God will bring you to a point of forgiveness toward him, and release from this bondage. I am guessing that you may have read Mike's article about father wounds on the home page? This is also an excellent article/site about SA. www.pureintimacy.org/piArticles/A000000575.cfm
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2010 3:53:22 GMT -7
Shredder, Thank you for your service. Honesty and getting to the root causes are really important parts of the process. Good job! For me, both professional counseling and 12-step support have been important parts of learning to look at myself honestly yet gently, to trust others and to break the isolation, and to let go of what needs to be let go. If you're deployed, then the meetings via Skype and online chat might be useful. Here's a list of links: saa-recovery.org/slaafws.org/sa.org/sca-recovery.org/slaaonline.org/internationalslaaonline.org/Finding freedom from an addiction, any addiction, is hard work. We have to go deeper than we want to go, and to face things we've avoided all our lives. But that's the path to letting those things go, to releasing the power they have over us. People do recover from addictions, all kinds of addictions, every day. Peace, and welcome! Tim M. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2010 5:59:59 GMT -7
Hi Shredder, I think you are on the right track about your relationship with your father possibly being involved. If it is, I pray that God will bring you to a point of forgiveness toward him, and release from this bondage. I am guessing that you may have read Mike's article about father wounds on the home page? This is also an excellent article/site about SA. www.pureintimacy.org/piArticles/A000000575.cfmTruthSeeker I know anything is possible with our God. He created us, so of course- he can fix our problems! i still hold alot of angry feelings towards my parents for getting divorced, and that i didn't get a normal childhood. Forgiving is not something i practice too often either... i did read mike's article, and i think there's alot of truth to what he's saying. thanks for responding
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2010 6:01:53 GMT -7
Shredder, Thank you for your service. Honesty and getting to the root causes are really important parts of the process. Good job! For me, both professional counseling and 12-step support have been important parts of learning to look at myself honestly yet gently, to trust others and to break the isolation, and to let go of what needs to be let go. If you're deployed, then the meetings via Skype and online chat might be useful. Here's a list of links: saa-recovery.org/slaafws.org/sa.org/sca-recovery.org/slaaonline.org/internationalslaaonline.org/Finding freedom from an addiction, any addiction, is hard work. We have to go deeper than we want to go, and to face things we've avoided all our lives. But that's the path to letting those things go, to releasing the power they have over us. People do recover from addictions, all kinds of addictions, every day. Peace, and welcome! Tim M. so, i'm not the only one with trust issues! haaha:)  thanks for the links, i really appreciate it. i've beaten other addictions before, so i know i can beat this one, if i deal with the internal problems. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2010 23:01:34 GMT -7
Truthseeker,
the pure intimacy article is right on the money:) i really like the author, and it seems to make alot of sense. thanks so much for the link. i'm gonna see if this guy has any books i can get a hold of
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2010 9:01:18 GMT -7
Hi Shredder,
I'm glad you found it helpful.
I, too, thank you for your service.
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thanks for the links, i really appreciate it. i've beaten other addictions before, so i know i can beat this one, if i deal with the internal problems.