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Jan 15, 2006 22:40:13 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2006 22:40:13 GMT -7
Hi Roy,
I'm not sure what happened to your post. I hadn't responded because I thought there may be others here who could better relate to your situation than I could.
In reality though, we all are trying to fill the same void of a deep need for relationship, only we've all found similar but different in the details, ways to meet this need. While it only addresses the short term need, it drives us to frustration by not meeting our true need. Our addiction seems to offer us the hope of relationship only to destroy that hope and destroy the true relationships that we do have.
My hope is that you'll continue to strive towards Jesus and work this recovery stuff. It truly is exhilerating to experience reality through true intimacy.
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Feb 16, 2006 13:47:25 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2006 13:47:25 GMT -7
Sorry, I took it off becasue it had been there for five days and noone responded.
I am a recoverying sex offender. I was arrested on 5/7/05 and have been going to Celebrate Recovery since August of 05. I have been m/b free and pron free since August of 2005 and am doing the settingcaptivesfree.com program, day #55.
I am willing to correspond to any who might be interested. It has been a struggle but by God's grace I am free.
Roy
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Feb 17, 2006 6:26:27 GMT -7
Post by mike on Feb 17, 2006 6:26:27 GMT -7
Welcome Roy. I was out of town last week, and have been playing catch up this week. Would be interested in seeing your original post up here again.
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Feb 17, 2006 6:59:45 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2006 6:59:45 GMT -7
Sorry, don't know what I wrote last month but it had to do with my crime, I think.
I was arrested on May 7, 2005 for S-assault on my daughter. I had tried to find help for this problem while it was still a temptation but did not know how. I would type things like child molester and pedofile and would get hate messages and the like. Then I fell to temptation after six months of fighting it and as stated above I was arrested on 5/7/05. I am in Celebrate Recovery, taking sex offender classes, attending counseling and taking the Setting Captives Free course online. My trial date has been reset two times. I was set to be sentenced on January 30 to six years when all of the sudden the prosecuter changed his mind because of all that I have done for myself. It is a possibilty I am looking at no prison time.
Pray that God's will be done and that I may be able to help others find help before they get to the point that I did or after that too as far as that is concerned. Also pray that Arkansas DHS will stop harrassing my family because my wife chooses to stand behind me getting help. She has forgiven me and my daughter has also.
In His arms,
Roy
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Feb 17, 2006 7:07:45 GMT -7
Post by mike on Feb 17, 2006 7:07:45 GMT -7
>Also pray that Arkansas DHS will stop harrassing my family because my wife chooses to stand behind me getting help. She has forgiven me and my daughter has also.
This is a miracle in itself. You must have a strong woman for a wife, because forgiveness doesn't usually come about that quickly.
I know a guy who was a former pastor and later spent time in prison for a similar offense; he now is a counselor who helps others break free from sexual addiction. If you need one on one help, he would be great.
Have prayed for you.
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Feb 17, 2006 7:17:48 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2006 7:17:48 GMT -7
I welcome any and all help. Finances are limited though with me supporting my wife and kids at their apartment and me at my place.
If I had been charged with rape and had done that she would have divorced me. She said that since I did not do that and that mine and my daughter's stories matched that she was not going to throw away fifteen years of marriage when there might still be hope.
Thanks for sharing,
roy
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Feb 24, 2006 2:58:25 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2006 2:58:25 GMT -7
>Also pray that Arkansas DHS will stop harrassing my family because my wife chooses to stand behind me getting help. She has forgiven me and my daughter has also.< I just joined this forum, as I found out about it on the KKTV knew report. I am the wife of a man who had to go through the SO treatment in Colorado. I know of several women in situations similar to yours Roynstone. They have been harrassed by the DHS for choosing to stay with their husbands. They have also had close friends and church members turn their backs on them for choosing to stay. Which is very sad, as this is the time that these women need support and help the most. My husband had asked a girl to pose for him to create his own web-site. She turned out to be under 18 and, thankfully turned him in to the police and he was arrested. No pictures were ever taken. God provided us with a plea agreemen to a non-sex offense crime. My husband had to take the SO evaulation and attend treatment if it was required, which of course it was. God also provided us with a wonderful Christian treatment provider. Didn't think we'd find a Christian provider since they have to be approved by the state. My husband had to drive 100 miles one way to his group every week, but it was well worth the drive. My husband began his treatment in March of 2004 and was able to graduated from the group in January of 2006. He is very much a changed man and is working to mend the damage that was caused to our 3 children. We have met a lot of people/friends through this experience that we would have never met otherwise. God works in amazing ways. We have learned a lot during this process. If I can be of any support to your wife please let me know. If she is interested I can refer her to a couple of on-line groups that have been a great source of help for myself. I don't know if you have any restrictions placed upon you, but I know the feeling of not being able to go a lot of places, because children may be present. I also know the feeling of not being allowed to leave my children alone with my husband. Thankfully that restriction has been dropped and he can know spend time alone with our kids. It can be a very lonely feeling and you think that no one else understands what it is like.
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Feb 24, 2006 7:19:56 GMT -7
Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2006 7:19:56 GMT -7
Thank you, I'll keep that in mind if my wife needs more help. She is recovery from this blow slowly but surely.
I am restricted from having contact with my daughter but can have DHS-supervised contact and phone contact with my son.
Thanks again and God bless.
Roy
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