Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2006 8:00:16 GMT -7
Hi there,
My husband is retired Navy and we have both been married before. We have been together for 3 years and have been married for over 1 1/2 years happily. The only thing is that I feel he is addicted to watching porn videos when he is home alone for a few hours and masturbating to them and when he does that he is not interested in having sex with me. When we do have sex it is not that great anymore--does not even get very erect or hard like he used to and lasts for maybe five minutes. We have been going through alot of financial troubles for the past couple of months so he says he uses those videos to help him take his mind of things and relax but neglects me! I am trying to be patient but I have needs too and I need to be with him. Before this financial situation came along we were having sex 3-4 times a week, now it is once a week! He wont even let me try and get him aroused he just says he is stressed, does not like stress or depressed sex and for me to be patient. But when I ask him will we go back to the way it was before all this he changes the subject which is his way of saying NO. He has been watching porn videos for many years--he was going to strip clubs and leaving me at home for about a year and a half into our relationship, about a year and half ago he stopped going because he said he knew it bothered me greatly and that I hated it. I work during the day and he works during the evenings so he has all morning and part of the afternoon to watch them and to masturbate to them. I have a high sex drive but he doesnt--at least with me, but he will watch those videos daily and not want to have sex with me leaving me out in the cold. I have been praying to God but nothing has happened as of yet, at least I dont think so. Please understand that I love him dearly and this is the main thing that he does that really upsets me but it is important to me. Please help with advice urgently!!! I have been praying to God that God ministers to my husband and it seems that he tries to overcome his addiction and he will stop getting videos for a week or so once in a great while but then he starts all over again.
My husband is retired Navy and we have both been married before. We have been together for 3 years and have been married for over 1 1/2 years happily. The only thing is that I feel he is addicted to watching porn videos when he is home alone for a few hours and masturbating to them and when he does that he is not interested in having sex with me. When we do have sex it is not that great anymore--does not even get very erect or hard like he used to and lasts for maybe five minutes. We have been going through alot of financial troubles for the past couple of months so he says he uses those videos to help him take his mind of things and relax but neglects me! I am trying to be patient but I have needs too and I need to be with him. Before this financial situation came along we were having sex 3-4 times a week, now it is once a week! He wont even let me try and get him aroused he just says he is stressed, does not like stress or depressed sex and for me to be patient. But when I ask him will we go back to the way it was before all this he changes the subject which is his way of saying NO. He has been watching porn videos for many years--he was going to strip clubs and leaving me at home for about a year and a half into our relationship, about a year and half ago he stopped going because he said he knew it bothered me greatly and that I hated it. I work during the day and he works during the evenings so he has all morning and part of the afternoon to watch them and to masturbate to them. I have a high sex drive but he doesnt--at least with me, but he will watch those videos daily and not want to have sex with me leaving me out in the cold. I have been praying to God but nothing has happened as of yet, at least I dont think so. Please understand that I love him dearly and this is the main thing that he does that really upsets me but it is important to me. Please help with advice urgently!!! I have been praying to God that God ministers to my husband and it seems that he tries to overcome his addiction and he will stop getting videos for a week or so once in a great while but then he starts all over again.
