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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2010 7:32:10 GMT -7
Basically put, I'm a good, smart kid from a good Christian home who has fallen into this vicious cycle of porn and masturbation. I know what I ought to do, but I act out of impulse and the flawed thought that "I'll just look a little, it won't hurt." Obviously it does, and snowballs from a peek at lingerie into full blown pornography. The part that bothers me the most about how I respond to it is that I don't even feel remorse afterwards anymore. I'm a rather stoic guy in the first place, but I feel no emotion. The guilt coming repeatedly finally ate away at my emotions to where I'm bankrupt of them. This has been going on for about 4 1/2 years now, as I started half-way through 8th grade and just graduated high school. I know all the verses for this, I know how it's bad for me. The cognition isn't the problem. I know right and wrong better than just about anyone, but it no longer sinks in. I got on here not because I feel guilty, but because I'm almost looking at myself as another person, and this is an intervention. I know I'm a fool, tell myself regularly to keep myself from getting a big head (I have a reputation as a know-it-all). Anyway, yeah, it's me.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 10, 2010 10:03:41 GMT -7
Welcome!
I'm very impressed with your understanding of your problem. Often, addicts take a long time to be able to see clearly how their addictive rituals work, even to be aware that the core of the problem is emotional, and to identify powerlessness and not ignorance as the issue. Lots of people also spend a long time trying to dodge the A word. I probably had to wait another 30 years to get as clear a picture of my problem as you seem to have now.
So given that that's the problem, what are possible steps toward a solution? Opening up to others here is a great step, but my experience is that most people need a lot more than what any web board can offer - that things like support groups (12-step or something else), counseling, and honesty with the people around us are pretty important. Just reading and learning about this addiction is also obviously important.
So what's the next step?
Tim M.
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