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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2010 6:52:25 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2010 12:03:12 GMT -7
Thank you! That was a useful read. I've disclosed to my college age sons, but not yet to my daughters, who are somewhat younger. That's a conversation I still need to work out how to have.
That's not to say that my daughters are completely uninformed. They know Dad is in counseling and attends support groups to help him better know himself and to help him learn not to be angry, and they know I'm working hard to be a better father and a better person. But I haven't yet said the word "sex addiction" to them. That needs to happen, for their own safety and in order to deepen communication within the family, but the time hasn't quite come yet, although it's probably very close now.
Tim M.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2010 1:41:47 GMT -7
You're welcome, Tim.
This is also a conversation my husband needs to have with our children. My initial instinct was to tell them everything right away. That was when I was certain that we were headed for divorce. Since he entered treatment, I've backed off on that demand, but it still has to happen, for their own safety and future. I don't know how to start that conversation. I haven't a clue. And I want to shield them from th epain, but the pain of re-living this in their own lives would be worse.
I pray for Our Heavenly Father's wisdom to guide us as we seek to inoculate the next generation from this evil.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2010 1:47:01 GMT -7
I started disclosing to my sons with a conversation together with a letter I handed them in order to give them a record of the conversation if they wanted to look back at it later, or if stuff went by them in the initial confusion. They knew at that point that I was in treatment for something without really knowing details.
I don't want to post my letter here, since it seems to me a little private, but if seeing what I wrote might help your husband to think about how to proceed, I'd be willing to PM an edited version of it.
Tim M.
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