Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2009 13:21:34 GMT -7
Hi. I have been here on and off for the last 2 yrs. My husband visited prositutes and had porn addiction for last 12 yrs of our r'ship. He confessed voluntarily and has been 'sober' 2 yrs. I decided to stay with him but I told him I had to have absolute honesty. Just this week the nagging sensation that he was lying to me again resurfaced. Turns out God was trying to alert me to the fact that he has looking me in the eye and telling me lies (abt the things he has done.) Let me be honest I dont care abt the details, except that in the details and being honest I can learn to trust my husband again. That has all been shattered and everything my husband has been 'working' for in our marriage has been wiped clean like a slate. They were simple questions like - did any of the sex workers wear lingerie? Well my husband lied abt this for example because he says he doesnt want me to NOT wear lingerie for him now because I will think he wants me to look like THEM.
ok this man seems more concerned abt 'punishment' a slap on the nose with a rolled up newspaper like a bad puppy than he is with any display of love for me
Any advice please. How do I handle this? We are discussing trial separation because I dont want to be lied to anymore. My heart has turned away from him because I am too hurt to continue this process of healing when HE isnt being 100% with me. We havent had sex in over 2 weeks and feel myself not wanting to be emotionally or physically available to him since this recent lying. I feel like he has wiped his feet al over my forgiveness. Im in psychotherapy and my therapist says on the scale of wrong my husband thinks lying is a small issue compared with the other things that I have offered him forgiveness for
Tell me from a Christian perspective, when is enough enough. Gods strength is well able to sustain me He upholds me with His Righteous right hand - yes yes. But how much of a cost to me and my children will this relationship continue to exact
ok this man seems more concerned abt 'punishment' a slap on the nose with a rolled up newspaper like a bad puppy than he is with any display of love for me
Any advice please. How do I handle this? We are discussing trial separation because I dont want to be lied to anymore. My heart has turned away from him because I am too hurt to continue this process of healing when HE isnt being 100% with me. We havent had sex in over 2 weeks and feel myself not wanting to be emotionally or physically available to him since this recent lying. I feel like he has wiped his feet al over my forgiveness. Im in psychotherapy and my therapist says on the scale of wrong my husband thinks lying is a small issue compared with the other things that I have offered him forgiveness for
Tell me from a Christian perspective, when is enough enough. Gods strength is well able to sustain me He upholds me with His Righteous right hand - yes yes. But how much of a cost to me and my children will this relationship continue to exact