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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:54:50 GMT -7
Hi my name is Linda and im 21yrs old.
I was about to marry the love of my life, my best friends and my soul mate, when he confessed to me that he cheated on me for the third time. I gave him many chances. And he kept failing on me with men from sex lines. No, it wasn't phone sex, it was actually calling someone up to have sex somewhere. I was depressed, i was in debt, i was going crazy and i was tired of being hurt. I packed all my things and left to Mexico to start all over again in my life. Right now im in the process of going back to school to finish my last year. I am going into the animation career. I also am working on building my house on top of a mountain near natural water falls. Im working hard on myself. Rebuilding myself. Getting back onto my feet. Doing the things i always wanted to do. Learning how to love myself all over again.
But, im still in love with that guy who hurt me so bad and broke me down. I still love him. Because of him, i was re-introduce to christ and was baptized. I quit doing drugs and smoking. Cursing is what i was most known for and now i am as polite as i can ever be. Even though im going through an off an on relationship with god, i feel more at peace to know that there is someone who actually cares about me. Im very happy to have met the one who saved my life. Jesus Christ.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2009 15:18:13 GMT -7
welcome it strikes me as i read your post how smart and strong you are. if i had left my husband back when he was just a boyfriend or a fiance and before we had children then my life would be totally different and i wouldnt feel hurt and pain like a train driving over me
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Post by KevinesKay on Dec 14, 2009 1:02:50 GMT -7
Linda,
Thank you for sharing. It inspires me when someone truly decides to come out of grief and live in repair. I lived in a grief stage for over 5 years. Then I decided to do things characterized by a repair stage because I was so fed up with living in a depressed state. It was a wonderful experience to see myself finally "living" my life. My sense of joy returned shortly later, but it wasn't until I acted on the decision to stop living in grief.
I can see you eventually letting this person go emotionally. Just keep pursuing your dreams as you've done before. You're definitely on the right track. I would challenge you to write out a grateful inventory (stuff you're grateful about in your life). It sounds like you have a lot of them that you wouldn't have if you were still involved with this guy. This may help you to keep from associating this breakup with feelings of loss, despair, failure, etc.
Good job, Linda, for making some great, healthy choices at such an early age.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2009 4:03:08 GMT -7
Im glad to know im doing the right thing here, and that im smart and strong. I always though i was weak because im such a cry baby lol. We were both hurting so much durning that time, so i think it was best for the separation.
Right now we are friends, im not so sure if their will ever be a reconciliation between us. I know it takes years and years of recovery. Everyday i ask god to help him find the help he needs so that he can still have that chance to live out his life. After all he is my age. He got a lot to live for and i'd be a waste to just keep on suffering his years away. I really want him to be happy. I really want to be with him. But if i do that, nothing will change or nothing will progress and things will get more painful. So all i can really do is pray. Pray and pray and pray that one day god will bring us back together.
So im just waiting that day when i see him recovered from his addiction and everything its done to him. I know hes a good guy and he's got a good heart. He just got to dig him out of the dirt. And god will wash him clean with his love.
But as im waiting, im living my life according to god. He will take care of me now. That right there is enough to keep my faith in god and in him. I know one day, that day will come.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2010 1:54:43 GMT -7
Hi Linda,
I am so sad and puzzled at how you moved from where you were here, working to build a healthy life, to being sucked back in by this abuse?
Praying for you... TruthSeeker
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