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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2005 4:22:01 GMT -7
Getting an internet filter was a big step for me. While it has been frustrating that it blocks some things that aren't an issue for me, it has also saved me many times. I thought this might be a good place to discuss filters that others have found useful. I use NetMop which works pretty well and is reasonably inexpensive. I'm curious to hear what others have found.
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Post by Steve on Dec 1, 2005 8:47:53 GMT -7
I use www.safeeyes.com , which works very well. My only general input is that sometimes folks early in recovery put way too much emphasis on filters to save themselves from their addictive behavior. Indeed, a filter is a "must" for those working hard at staying free. Yet I sometimes find some in recovery talking about filters ... to the exclusion of really exploring the deeper issues of why they turn to their addictive behavior. If only putting a filter on one's computer would free oneself of being a sex addict ... ha! :cool: -Steve |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2005 13:35:25 GMT -7
www.truevine.net
That uses the S4F filtering, and I just recently settup the accountability part too. Supposively it will be updated daily too.
It too blocks some things that I dont feel should....but better safe from temptation than sorry.
And yes I also agree that to attack this problem on the end-result part of the issue only does but so much good. But it has helped me face the real problem as it boils up inside...I can start to see it for what it really is.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2005 3:01:54 GMT -7
I in no way meant to insinuate that a filter was a permanent fix to addiction. One huge realization that I've learned is that there's no one things that works in recovery. Its more like a tool belt that we need to populate with the proper tools. Certain tools have certain uses where another tool wouldn't be appropriate. Filters are definitely on my tool belt, but are used in their proper place. I'm still in counseling as well to explore deeper issues, but without a filter in place for a boundary, I'd be more apt to fall in my weaker moments.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2005 6:07:45 GMT -7
Is safeeyes the filter offered through newlife.com? I think they have one as well.
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Post by Steve on Dec 17, 2005 0:03:04 GMT -7
Sounds good, Matt. Keep up the good work!  I have no idea if Safe Eyes is offered through New Life. -Steve |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2006 5:49:12 GMT -7
"NetDog Internet Filter" does very good job in filtering world.
its homepage: www.NetDogSoft.com
NetDog download : www.NetDogSoft.com/netdog.exe
it's very easy to use NetDog, NetDog block porn content efficiently. it can work with all kinds of browsers( IE, firefox ....)
key fetures:
Embed "Filtering Engine" into Windows Operation System !!
High Performance Content Filtering Algorithm ! Quick Filter ! !
Support user-defined Url block!! ( black & great url lists ), Support wildcards (* and ?) and keywords in url !
Password protected with NetDogAdmin !
Simple user interface!
www.NetDogSoft.com
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2006 7:42:10 GMT -7
www.contentwatch.com is a VERY good program for blocking porn. No software can stop everything, but this gets most of it. Trust me. I've tried many and (shamefully) found ways to beat them all. This can be beaten as well, but you'd have to be pretty PC savvy to beat it and it has kept me from very, very gross falling when I foolishly throw caution to the wind. It's the best of the bunch that I've found. My wife has the password, so I can't just surf at will. The cost is reasonable.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 21, 2007 16:03:00 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2007 16:55:42 GMT -7
My name is Matthew, I just got Covenant Eyes Filter. It work pretty..There support is real good the hours of operation are.
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Sunday and major U.S. holidays: Closed
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2009 2:16:35 GMT -7
I have WebWatcherKids on H's computer. It records everything, e-mails, websites visited, keystrokes, searched topics, and you can take screenshots based on key words of your choice (camsex, porn, breasts...etc)
I initially went about it the wrong way and put it in place with out his knowledge so I could determine if he was serious about recovery. I needed to know if this relationship was worth saving or was I wasting my time and efforts... It allowed me to see the real him. He truly wanted to recover from SA/PA but kept backsliding at certain times. I was able to offer additional support during those times of struggle for him without him feeling the shame of knowing why I was keeping him on the phone or offering extra self-esteem boosters at the right times...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2009 2:55:16 GMT -7
Mechelle, I'm wondering how you got Webwatcher on your computer without your husband's knowledge. (My husband is pretty computer savvy). He actually suggested that program and we tried it. He claimed it was for my peace of mind rather than to stop him because he's been porn free for 9 months since he got caught he says but I also want to know if he's serious. If he knows the computer is being monitored surely he won't use this computer for porn but if he doesn't know and he's not serious then I would know not to trust him. Do you think it's best they don't know just to find out their sincerity?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2009 14:51:45 GMT -7
My H is pretty computer savvy also...actually alot more than me... I just don't let him know that..LOL!**I am going to be prefectly honest here. I am going to be pretty blunt about this, in hopes that it will help others. I sure wish I had this type of info going into recovery with him, I would have understood him much better... and would have been a better help-meet.**When I initially installed it he had no idea, he continued to surf just as he normally would, of course. I could definately see progress in him. Most of his work is by his computer and I could see that he worked diligently at what he was doing. (showed me good work ethics) I could also see the "triggers" which usually was an ugly/upsetting e-mail that would have him viewing 'soft porn type photos' looking for something to give him a lift. (this was not very frequent and many times he would actually look at my pictures)During the day I could also see him working very diligently on his Recovery Nations lessons. (www.recoverynations.com) I could tell he was sincere and working hard and truly wants sexual addiction out of his life. But I could also see when his difficult times were. I knew when he had his most difficult hours and frequently went from site to site. (porn sites) Even though these were sites that had content I would never want to view, I could see the big picture that he the time spent was getting less and less and that he would go back and view his lesson on Values or Vision for His Life. FAST FORWARD~ Once he knew I could see everything he does on his computer his entire behavior changed. I let him know what I was able to see and how I felt about it. I told him that even though I know what he was doing I still loved him and I could see the progress he was continuing to make. But once he knew I could see everything, he quit viewing anything 'extra' he even stopped viewing my e-mail (which he had access to) and only used his computer for his work. I never asked him to stop anything he was doing; everything he did was led by his own heart. Initially knowing I could see everything he was doing he was very angry. I do believe most of the anger came from being angry with himself due to the shame men feel about what they have been doing. Once the initial anger subsided and he knew I did not do that to hurt him in any way he said he felt comfort in knowing he had to be accountable and could not just act-out whenever the urge would arise. Denise, to answer your specific question and to how I got it there without him knowing was fairly easy. I can tell you how it was placed there, totally undetected on his computer, and the only program that could remove or interfere with it if you would like. I have never had to access his computer since the installation and do all monitoring from my computer. I don't think it would be good to post that publically on this thread, but I will tell you everything in a private message or e-mail.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2009 12:39:17 GMT -7
Thanks Mechelle, I will start up a new email account so we can correspond and post it as soon as I have it. Don't want to post my regular email account on the public board so give me a day or so and I appreciate you taking the time to go over this with me privately. - Denise
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2009 0:55:20 GMT -7
Let me try to send you a private message through this site...
~Mechelle~
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