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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 3, 2015 11:05:03 GMT -7
Hello everyone.
Could you please take time to pray for my son. He's never been a good student in high school and he barely got accepted into a college by some miracle of God.
He got so depressed during his first term that my wife and I got a call from his dorm saying we need to pick him up right away. His RA caught him cutting himself. He failed some courses last term but chose to go back again for second term to do better.
Less than a month into it, he has already lost his phone for the second time. And he recently lost his backpack with all of his expensive textbooks.:?
He also wants to change his major to art because music is too hard.
My wife and I are starting to feel that college is too much for him.
Please pray that God gives each of us direction and vision. Pray that I can have peace about this because right now I don't.
Pray that my son will find his books and his phone.
Pray that my son's term will be better than the last.
Thank you.
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 4, 2015 0:16:17 GMT -7
I have a recent update. My son found his backpack with all of his books. Thank the Lord and thanks everyone for your prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2015 13:38:42 GMT -7
KevinesKay,
Wow. It is always wonderful to see/hear answers to prayer. I will pray for the other issues you raised and requested prayer on. My youngest son just graduated college this past fall and we weren't sure that would happen. By the skin of his teeth he made it and we are glad. God is faithful.
Nikanor
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 6, 2015 0:12:27 GMT -7
Thanks Nikanor.
By the way everyone. Your prayers are showing a lot of power. My son found his phone. Keep praying for him. Thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2015 20:59:41 GMT -7
Kevin,
I will be praying for your son as well. My oldest was cutting herself as well and it's a way to release some type of pain they are holding in. It is a way of dealing with trauma. She's seeing a counselor right now b/c she ended up suicidal as well. Last June, the cops showed up at our house b/c she had texted a friend she was going to kill herself and we had to have her admitted to the psych ward for over a week. We found razors, knives and scissors hidden all over her room and the house. WE had no idea she was suffering. It sounds like he might need help right away. I don't want to scare you, but my daughter was really saying she needed to cut deeper. I am not even recommending college next year when she graduates this spring b/c I thing it will be too much for her.
Something must be really bottled up inside your son. My husband's addiction wore me out and I feel that my children held stuff in b/c they saw how much I was suffering and they didn't want to add to my troubles.
Again, I will be praying for all of ya'll. If he stays in college, he should be seeing a crisis counselor right away. That's how serious the self harm is.
Take care and God bless.
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Post by KevinesKay on Mar 12, 2015 2:49:20 GMT -7
I want to give you an update. My oldest son is back home for spring break. But initially, he was not himself. He's much better now, but my wife and I are concerned that he's being influenced in a bad way. He admits that his relationship with the Lord is lacking, and he doesn't seem to show any concern about it. He's showing a lot of signs of depression. He's into playing violent video games a lot on his IPAD.
He's already dropped one class this second semester. I'm concerned that he's not doing any much better this semester than he did the first. My wife and I are questioning whether he should continue.
Please pray that my son will manage his time better and get his priorities right.
Pray that whatever is bothering him, that he'll find a way to deal with it.
Pray that he makes time in his life for the Lord.
Thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2015 3:47:42 GMT -7
KK,Reminds me of the experience with my youngest son. He graduated this past spring. He made it through but the first two years were dicey. He failed a couple of courses and seemed unmotivated. My wife and he had some real pitched battles when he came home during breaks and I was none too happy but felt that arguing wasn't going to help matters at all. So I supported him, told him to just get through it all to get his degree, asked him to keep the long haul in perspective. He believed in God but didn't attend church at all and was far from a strong Christian. My wife eventually eased up at my urging but not from her own beliefs or experiences going through college. We made it through and frankly felt it was a miracle. I don't know what made the difference except I think he matured during the four years.
I can't begin to count the number of prayers I said for him and for my wife and son's relationship. Everyone is in a better place and relationship now. I can only attribute that to God. Although I said a lot of things to both of them during that four years I doubt I was the ultimate influence. However, I needed to be faithful, consistent, and persistent in keeping God in the equations and I believe that made all the difference.
So, point out to him the good long term goals and some consequences of not following through, be supportive to him, urge him to do his best, don't compare him to successful students or other (this goes against our own upbringing and culture today), above all don't denigrate him in any way or yell or excessively, don't argue with him, express what God would want him to do, and pray much.
It is interesting how children can be so different which calls us to be able to handle all types of people and situations. My oldest son is at the opposite end of the organized, motivated spectrum and is entering his third year of medical school now and in the top 5% of his class. How do you love them both and treat them equally despite their differences?
Best wishes and blessings to you on this,
Nikanor
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Post by KevinesKay on Mar 13, 2015 15:46:06 GMT -7
Thank you, Nikanor, for your insight and prayers. I feel very encouraged.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2015 3:10:18 GMT -7
No problem - glad to help in any little way. Keep God foremost in all your ways and thoughts.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2015 11:34:06 GMT -7
Amen Steve64,
We owe our best to our children and prayer and our best efforts based on obedience to God is one of our primary tasks. I sure missed a lot of opportunities as my children grew up and I have a lot of amends to make now. It is more difficult once they leave home because they don't see me as much and I don't have as many opportunities to demonstrate godly behavior or to teach them in the way of the Lord.
Peace and blessings on you,
Nikanor
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Post by KevinesKay on Mar 25, 2015 1:55:29 GMT -7
Steve,
That was a great and powerful prayer. Thank you very much!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2015 18:45:32 GMT -7
I will be praying for your son. I went to a religious college and I ended up dropping out b/c there was so much pressure and we had to do extra things like church 3x a week and chapel 5 times a week, that it destroyed my health and I had to drop out in the middle of the semester.
I too have had a child who had a problem cutting herself. It was a way to relieve the pain she was feeling.
Maybe he can find a good counselor? My daughter has been going since last June and it's helped mer. She also has gotten control of her eating disorder which is an answer to prayer.
My prayers are with ya'll.
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