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Post by ladystrong on Jul 5, 2018 12:47:06 GMT -7
I think it’s wise that you are “testing the waters” with your friend, especially if he has the same issues. I do think you need to tell a mature Christian soon though. It’s good that you have confessed here, that is a good step but it’s better to actually talk with someone face to face. This is not as unusual as you might think. There are many men struggling with physical adultery in the church. At least two people have spoken to my husband about their adultery and their desire to change. I can see that you are truly sorrowful and want to move forward. I urge you to get the support you need from counseling now, perhaps even before you tell your wife. The women/woman whom you have had sex with will continue to be a wedge in your marriage until you confess. How do I know? Because it was a very severe wedge in my marriage and I could feel it even though my husband said nothing about it. His whole demeanor changed. He even went to a couple of amp’s and felt ashamed as well. But once he told me and got everything out, it was like a HUGE burden was lifted from his shoulders. The enemy could no longer use his sin against him. He could stand up and truly fight knowing that the Lord was with him. Like I have said before, the door to the enemy will remain open until you bring things to the light and confess. He will continue to accuse you and use it as a stronghold.
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Post by Will on Jul 5, 2018 23:13:37 GMT -7
Agreed about the mature Christian. A Pastor is a great start if there is one you know who you trust and believe in. I have definitely (and still am in some ways) going through that difficulty of expecting 'worldly rewards'. The truth is there are rewards, but they are spiritual. But they are better than any other rewards! God blesses zero tolerance. It can be quite spectacular what He will do in your life!
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Post by Will on Jul 5, 2018 23:15:28 GMT -7
Hmmm just read that back and it still sounds wrong. It is really for love that we are staying sober: love of our Father God, and love for the people around us. Guess that truly sums up the spiritual blessing, it is real love.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2018 7:58:26 GMT -7
agree. 14 days sober. believing that my biological "need" will reduce with deminished demand. Believing my emotional and psychological dependancy will be reduced as i change my thought patterns and renew my mind. Commercials are so bad, I have to look away and refuse to let my mind linger on lustful thoughts. I have to come to grips with the fact that the part of my life where I can legitimately engage in sex is over. Celebacy is my only true fate for me now. I cry out not my will but yours. She has stolen it from me, yet it is already gone. No use crying over it now.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:36:23 GMT -7
FFB, you have to tell your pastor, then tell your wife, what ladystrong said is right. It is the same thing in my own life. I was going to all the same places you mentioned, everything was a trigger for me because our brain is programmed and given over to Satan. GOD has change your will, your heart, then your mind will be reprogrammed. It's a long painful process but worth it. Celibacy is not the only option though. Don't worry how that part will work out. Don't worry how to feed your sexual desire. Right now you need to obey Jesus and cut off the sin or go to hell.
You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’e 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
Matthew 5
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:38:45 GMT -7
Proverbs 5장(KJV)
1 My son, attend unto my wisdom, [and] bow thine ear to my understanding: 2 That thou mayest regard discretion, and [that] thy lips may keep knowledge. 3 For the lips of a strange woman drop [as] an honeycomb, and her mouth [is] smoother than oil: 4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. 6 Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, [that] thou canst not know [them]. 7 Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. 8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: 9 Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: 10 Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours [be] in the house of a stranger; 11 And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, 12 And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; 13 And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! 14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. 15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, [and] rivers of waters in the streets. 17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee. 18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 [Let her be as] the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? 21 For the ways of man [are] before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. 23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:39:59 GMT -7
Proverbs 6:16 These six [things] doth the LORD hate: yea, seven [are] an abomination unto him: Proverbs 6:17 A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, Proverbs 6:18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, Proverbs 6:19 A false witness [that] speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:40:53 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:41:29 GMT -7
Proverbs 7장(KJV)
1 My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee. 2 Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye. 3 Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table of thine heart. 4 Say unto wisdom, Thou [art] my sister; and call understanding [thy] kinswoman: 5 That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger [which] flattereth with her words. 6 For at the window of my house I looked through my casement, 7 And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, 8 Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, 9 In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: 10 And, behold, there met him a woman [with] the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. 11 (She [is] loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: 12 Now [is she] without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) 13 So she caught him, and kissed him, [and] with an impudent face said unto him, 14 peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows. 15 Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee. 16 I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved [works], with fine linen of Egypt. 17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves. 19 For the goodman [is] not at home, he is gone a long journey: 20 He hath taken a bag of money with him, [and] will come home at the day appointed. 21 With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. 22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; 23 Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it [is] for his life. 24 Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. 25 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. 26 For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong [men] have been slain by her. 27 Her house [is] the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:42:19 GMT -7
The women are not sex objects. It's a lie. They are created in the image of God.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:44:04 GMT -7
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’ ? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6 NKJV bible.com/bible/114/mat.19.4-6.NKJV
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:49:12 GMT -7
You are smashing and breaking your wife when you lust after other women. You are treating your private parts as an idol a false God of sex. Sex is your God. You worship sex and bow to it. Satan has you tricked. He is taking you to hell with him.
All the Asian women that you visit have fathers and mothers and it is someone's daughter you are messing around with.
They do not love you. They do not care for you. They are lying to you so make you their slave, a customer who will give your wealth to them and their masters.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:49:24 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:50:18 GMT -7
The women have children, feelings, worry, sufferings, like you and I they are like us.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2018 0:51:57 GMT -7
In hell, the immoral men and women will remember in shame what they did on earth and you will be in their thoughts while they burn. You might be there with them but not with them. You will be alone and burning forever because you hated Jesus and loved sin.
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