Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2018 7:57:29 GMT -7
About a year ago I have returned to Christ after a little more than a decade of being an atheist. I have been able through His Grace and the intercession of the saints turn aside from my porn addiction. I thought I had overcome MB as well.
I sometimes hang out during lunch breaks with a Christian woman at my job. However, last week while she was in my office she would sit in an immodest pose. I looked at what I shouldn't have,lusted after her, and MBed several times when I got home.
This incident has me reeling. I thought I had overcome lust from quitting watching porn. I was wrong. What really disturbs me is this is not a sin I would have even committed as a PA-atheist. The reason I became a PA was to distract myself from real women in order to avoid the potentially devastating legal and economic consequences. I am not merely convicted on account of my sin; I am afraid I will do something disastrous to my professional life in this age of #meToo if I can't get this under control.
It is as though I went from the frying pan into the fire.
First, do any men who renounced porn viewing suddenly have to contend with lust for real women IRL? If so, how did you address it?
Second, I know this woman is a Christian and would not do this intentionally and besides there are few things that would be more disgusting to a woman than the possibility I was having those kind of thoughts about her, so should I bring this to her attention? As a Christian she would probably want to hear about this so she would stop, but I'm so worried she will just call HR and report me for sexual harassment if I did. Have any men confronted any women about their immodesty? Are there any women who could advise me about the best way to bring this up? I really want to nip this in the bud.
I sometimes hang out during lunch breaks with a Christian woman at my job. However, last week while she was in my office she would sit in an immodest pose. I looked at what I shouldn't have,lusted after her, and MBed several times when I got home.
This incident has me reeling. I thought I had overcome lust from quitting watching porn. I was wrong. What really disturbs me is this is not a sin I would have even committed as a PA-atheist. The reason I became a PA was to distract myself from real women in order to avoid the potentially devastating legal and economic consequences. I am not merely convicted on account of my sin; I am afraid I will do something disastrous to my professional life in this age of #meToo if I can't get this under control.
It is as though I went from the frying pan into the fire.
First, do any men who renounced porn viewing suddenly have to contend with lust for real women IRL? If so, how did you address it?
Second, I know this woman is a Christian and would not do this intentionally and besides there are few things that would be more disgusting to a woman than the possibility I was having those kind of thoughts about her, so should I bring this to her attention? As a Christian she would probably want to hear about this so she would stop, but I'm so worried she will just call HR and report me for sexual harassment if I did. Have any men confronted any women about their immodesty? Are there any women who could advise me about the best way to bring this up? I really want to nip this in the bud.
