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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2018 21:53:09 GMT -7
The fellowship I have been in churches near me do not have recovery programs for men or women who struggle with porn, masterbation, etc etc. In fact, when I ask “How are you doing?” I get a common “I’m ok” type of answer. This is ok I guess but I start sharing about my own struggles and prayer requests and we pray together. Men praying with Men and women with women. This is how I get my recovery in church right now.
I have found good ministries like “Every Man’s Battle” and “Celebrate Recovery” and I am now reaching out to the guys in our fellowship to get an email type of accountability/sharing system going. It’s rough to fellowship in a deep way before and after church, especially when everyone has children and they have their own busy schedules. I am guilty here too. I do not truly seek out inviting others to my house, yet I have been invited to their house for Bible Study.
I intend to reach out to the guys in our church and start a type of Christ-centered 12 Step recovery from sex addiction because I know this is needed. Even if the church is not willing to open the door, perhaps meeting in email format will be ok for now.
I know I need prayer and accountability.
In Recovery,
Dominic M.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 7:56:47 GMT -7
I will be praying that you are successful. Have you approached your church about starting a recovery program in the church?
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Post by ladystrong on Mar 26, 2018 8:49:12 GMT -7
Are you part of a men’s bible study right now? That’s where I would start. I think carving out time for fellowship and building connections with people in your church first would be best. That’s how you and others will be able to get real with each other. It’s the face to face consistent interactions that you need. You’re right, the before and after church times are not going to be as deep or as enriching because people just don’t have time with kids in tow and places to go. But, when you are intentional about your time with other men everyone in that group has the potential to make a huge impact on each other’s lives just by showing up. I pray that there would be a men’s group that you can be a part of that will open up doors to new and lasting friendships.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 18:05:43 GMT -7
I will be praying that you are successful. Have you approached your church about starting a recovery program in the church? I am now talking to the guys and seeing what they think. Right now one guy doesn't understand what a recovery program is all about. I am trying to explain it to him using the Christ-Center 12 Steps of Celebrate Recovery. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 18:07:07 GMT -7
Are you part of a men’s bible study right now? That’s where I would start. I think carving out time for fellowship and building connections with people in your church first would be best. That’s how you and others will be able to get real with each other. It’s the face to face consistent interactions that you need. You’re right, the before and after church times are not going to be as deep or as enriching because people just don’t have time with kids in tow and places to go. But, when you are intentional about your time with other men everyone in that group has the potential to make a huge impact on each other’s lives just by showing up. I pray that there would be a men’s group that you can be a part of that will open up doors to new and lasting friendships. Thank you. You are right. I am not part of a Men's Bible Study right now. Just going to church on Sunday and Wednesday nights. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2018 20:52:29 GMT -7
Are you part of a men’s bible study right now? That’s where I would start. I think carving out time for fellowship and building connections with people in your church first would be best. That’s how you and others will be able to get real with each other. It’s the face to face consistent interactions that you need. You’re right, the before and after church times are not going to be as deep or as enriching because people just don’t have time with kids in tow and places to go. But, when you are intentional about your time with other men everyone in that group has the potential to make a huge impact on each other’s lives just by showing up. I pray that there would be a men’s group that you can be a part of that will open up doors to new and lasting friendships. Thank you. You are right. I am not part of a Men's Bible Study right now. Just going to church on Sunday and Wednesday nights. Celebrate Recovery is a great program. I have been to both AA and Celebrate Recovery. I prefer the Christ centered approach of Celebrate Recovery. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2018 4:45:21 GMT -7
Sadly a guy in our church said he did not want to join. We just have fellowship they some do not want to be in any kind of accountability group.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2018 7:49:37 GMT -7
Sadly a guy in our church said he did not want to join. We just have fellowship they some do not want to be in any kind of accountability group. It isn't easy to start or keep a recovery group going. People are private and proud. You may want to open it up to other churches. You may need to advertise. I have been on this forum for 2+ years and the turn over is heavy even among staff. As long as God is behind this endeavor it will succeed. You will have down times in the ministry and it will probably be small but it will succeed. |
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Post by ladystrong on Apr 2, 2018 8:33:47 GMT -7
Sadly a guy in our church said he did not want to join. We just have fellowship they some do not want to be in any kind of accountability group. Don’t be discouraged, forming a group takes time. Like Amy said, a lot of people prefer to be private and are proud, aka they don’t want to admit their faults and are afraid of being judged. Just continue to be in fellowship with others and in God’s timing, things will come together. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2018 17:19:36 GMT -7
Sadly a guy in our church said he did not want to join. We just have fellowship they some do not want to be in any kind of accountability group. Don’t be discouraged, forming a group takes time. Like Amy said, a lot of people prefer to be private and are proud, aka they don’t want to admit their faults and are afraid of being judged. Just continue to be in fellowship with others and in God’s timing, things will come together. Thank you Ladystrong. |
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Post by savedbygrace on Jul 4, 2018 5:24:56 GMT -7
Stats tell us that most or all churches need this!
Our men's group started talking about Covenant Eyes. It's hard to be the one who says much because it shows we are guilty. And we are!
Perhaps one of us, maybe me, could say, "I'll be an accountability partner for someone; just let me know."
Please pray for us!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2021 4:58:18 GMT -7
The fellowship I have been in churches near me do not have recovery programs for men or women who struggle with porn, masterbation, etc etc. In fact, when I ask “How are you doing?” I get a common “I’m ok” type of answer. This is ok I guess but I start sharing about my own struggles and prayer requests and we pray together. Men praying with Men and women with women. This is how I get my recovery in church right now. I have found good ministries like “Every Man’s Battle” and “Celebrate Recovery” and I am now reaching out to the guys in our fellowship to get an email type of accountability/sharing system going. It’s rough to fellowship in a deep way before and after church, especially when everyone has children and they have their own busy schedules. I am guilty here too. I do not truly seek out inviting others to my house, yet I have been invited to their house for Bible Study. I intend to reach out to the guys in our church and start a type of Christ-centered 12 Step recovery from sex addiction because I know this is needed. Even if the church is not willing to open the door, perhaps meeting in email format will be ok for now. I know I need prayer and accountability. In Recovery, Dominic M.
This is an old post on my old account that I deleted to make another one.
Update 3/30/2021 My church pastor told me "We will see what the Lord says" and nothing became of it. Other brothers did not want to have an accountability group. 😩
It's ok. God will help us despite our common fears and such, but we have to stick together, pray together, confess our sins to each other, speak the truth in love, and be serious and a real follower of Jesus Christ, not afraid of gossip, shame, etc. Our relationship to God is most important rather than what others think of us.
If someone gossips, they do not struggle and might be self-righteous forgetting their own besetting sins (pride?). I don't know.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 30, 2021 5:03:06 GMT -7
I'm glad to re-read these posts years later. I agree with what everyone here replied on. Yes, we have other sins that we don't like to confess and yes before and after church times we are busy watching kids, parking lot, so I see it should be a separate time. Thank you all for your replies.  It means a lot. |
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It means a lot.