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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2018 6:55:31 GMT -7
Hi,everyone. My husband has a basically life long porn addiction that he has been working to overcome. We have Internet blockers but I recently discovered they don't block porn on twitter. I saw my husband has been deleting and installing the twitter app over and over, which tells me he's slipped a few times but is still fighting his habit. As a wife, how can I emotionally deal with knowing slip ups are likely to happen long term? It's devastating knowing this may truly never be over even though things are much better. I think the wondering if he's watching porn is the hardest part for me. It makes me feel unloved even though I know he's working on it.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2018 7:43:46 GMT -7
Hi mo. Stumbling does happen along the way. It should become less frequent and stop completely over time. My suggestion would be to get an app that blocks the install of other apps or get a basic phone that doesn't have the smart phone capabilities.
Dealing with heartbreak and hurt is never easy. The only thing you can do there is to lean into God. He is your Father and will give you the love, acceptance and comfort you need. Hugs sweet sister. I am praying for you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2018 14:37:46 GMT -7
Thank you so much for your encouragement. It's very comforting to know it can get better.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2018 18:22:55 GMT -7
I’m new here, too. This is my first post. I found out this past thanksgiving that my husband is addicted to porn and has been for many years, long before we met. It was an issue, I find out now, in his first marriage. I agree it’s encouraging to read that this addiction can be overcome. My husband is at a SA meeting tonight, after having a meeting with his sponsor. But I feel like you do. Even though my husband is doing many things to leave this addiction, I feel so bad. So incredibly sad. Even though I found this out in November of last year, I believe I’m still in shock. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I am in your boat. I always wanted a boat. But not this boat. Blessings to you and the decisions you’ll be making.
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Post by teetop on Feb 12, 2018 18:15:41 GMT -7
I am truly sorry you are having such a hard time with your husband's addiction yet most of the time we forget that our addictions are just as bad as his and vice-a-versa. Christ died for him the same as He did for us. That is one of the reasons that marriage is not a contract but a covenant between each of us and God. We tend to forget that.
Heck, my sins run the gambit of degradation. But the funny thing is my daughter whom I have not seen for about 20+ years nor spoken with her about the same length of time once said she had no place to hold a grudge or hatred in her heart. She had to pay society for her stealing just to name a few things including killing her unborn child and keeping it hidden from me along with the fact her mother was complicit in the abortion too. So yes we all have our sins we seek forgiveness for. The only real thing we can do is seek God and ask as Job did for his children.
Job's Character and Wealth
Job 1:1 There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job; and that man was blameless, upright, fearing God and turning away from evil.
Job 1:2 Seven sons and three daughters were born to him.
Job 1:3 His possessions also were 7,000 sheep, 3,000 camels, 500 yoke of oxen, 500 female donkeys, and very many servants; and that man was the greatest of all the men of the east.
Job 1:4 His sons used to go and hold a feast in the house of each one on his day, and they would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them.
Job 1:5 When the days of feasting had completed their cycle, Job would send and consecrate them, rising up early in the morning and offering burnt offerings according to the number of them all; for Job said, "Perhaps my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." Thus Job did continually.(NASV)
You know if we look at scripture in the New Testament we will find that Jesus did the same for the apostles also.
Boy, do I have some more studying to do.
Have a Blessed time as you seek the face of Jesus and help your husband in his trials too.
Virgil
PS. Love your trade name.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2018 4:52:53 GMT -7
Forest, thank you for your post. It does help knowing we're not alone, because this can be a very isolating experience. It's not something you can talk to a lot of people about.
Teetop, I think your response is really unhelpful. This is a support group for women, and I'm dealing with trauma my husband caused me. Saying "well you have faults too" does not help the healing process. I'll deal with my faults separately.
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Post by teetop on Feb 13, 2018 7:23:14 GMT -7
You are right, and I'm sorry I said things to offend you. It was not to be meant that way.
And you are right the healing prosses does begin with us and what I said was not intended to bring harm.
And if you noticed I did show that the healing prosses does begin by forgiveness.
So I will ask for your forgiveness.
Virgil
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