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Jan 26, 2018 19:13:19 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2018 19:13:19 GMT -7
This evening I found hard evidence of some stuff I thought was going on online. I am not surprised by my recent findings but my heart broken again. Just when I thought I was on the mend. In need of prayers for strength and wisdom. This has to be addressed right now I need to process.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2018 0:08:00 GMT -7
I pray God gives you strength, wisdom, peace and lets you feel His love for you in a tangible real way. Hugs my sweet sister.
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Jan 27, 2018 15:40:14 GMT -7
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Post by ladystrong on Jan 27, 2018 15:40:14 GMT -7
I’m sorry you’re still going through this. I know how it feels to get your heart broken multiple times by the person you love the most. I am praying that the Lord would give you the strength, courage and wisdom to know what to do next. Are you currently going to individual therapy? I hope that you have people to talk with face to face about this. *HUGS*
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Jan 30, 2018 17:22:26 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2018 17:22:26 GMT -7
I am in therapy he is not. I tried getting him to go couples therapy he will not. I am just trying to gain strength.
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Jan 30, 2018 23:44:59 GMT -7
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Post by ladystrong on Jan 30, 2018 23:44:59 GMT -7
That’s good that you’re in therapy. I wish I had taken that step long before “the bomb” dropped. I remember asking my husband multiple times to go to couples counseling with me and for about two years he refused. It wasn’t until I threatened to leave with our kids and wrote a distressing email to our pastor that my husband had finally agreed to couples counseling. He, like many other men who have had bad counseling experiences and are too prideful to ask for help, had to feel like our pastor could listen to him without being judged. Now my husband advocates for couples to get lots of counseling before and during marriage.
At this point there’s not a whole lot you can do to move your husband along. Does he have a brother in the Lord whom he can talk to about all that he’s going through? Or, has he isolated himself?
Right now, just work on you while being respectful to him. It’s not an easy road to take, especially when you are hurting. Only you can be in control of your actions and reactions. I am praying for you.
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Jan 31, 2018 16:34:22 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2018 16:34:22 GMT -7
Thank you for the advice and encouragement. My husband has not been to church in year or more.I can’t think of any Christian male he would turn to. The pastor at my church would be willing to speak with him. 3 months ago I told him what I accepted from him unfortunately 5 days after we had a death in the family. Another death since. I thought it was best to let emotions calm for a bit. Things are getting better as far as us being more emotionally connected. which is part of what I asked. We became so disconnected when his P use increased. This weekend I am going to ask him to gave me his action plan for recovery. I am not sure what reaction I will get. Last time I conforted him he didn’t talk to me for weeks. Then tried saying it’s because we aren’t sexually compatible. I know it’s the sin talking so hard to even hear that nonsense. I also have some boundaries I need to make clear to him. I spending a lot of time in prayer and have others praying.
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