Post by ladystrong on Jan 16, 2017 15:14:19 GMT -7
Hi everyone,
The truth of my husband's affair was finally disclosed on 12/17/16 after 2 years of being dragged in the dirt. What I mean is that over the last two years I was constantly being "hit" by the symptoms of that affair thru his alcoholism, pot use, masturbation, pornography, and massage parlors. We are on the road to recovery and healing and he has been all out for Jesus after confessing his sin to our pastor, meeting with other brothers, and keeping accountable for his actions just as Mike Genung had recommended. He basically saw the devil incarnate while in the act. And afterward, the woman was sexually abusing him by manipulating him with lies about committing suicide or telling me to get him to keep giving her sex. I believe she was possessed then and continues to be possessed now, even though she says she has "changed" (ultimately I know that that's God place to judge but I don't trust her one bit!). In the shock of what he had done, he didn't think to contact police to keep her from harassing him and in the shame he didn't want to tell anyone what he had done. That encounter was enough to bring him to appreciate me more and kind of come back to God but the guilt and shame was so heavy that he didn't feel worthy of God's love anymore and he didn't want to hurt me so he kept the truth to himself, thinking he'd take it with him to the grave. I confronted her because she was someone I considered a friend. Never in my life would I have thought that the enemy would be that close, to give me hugs, give my children hugs, give our children meals, and give our family tickets as a way to find forgiveness- SICK! I b*tched her out for a good 20 mins before I told her to NEVER contact us again. If she ever does, I'd call law enforcement. After confronting her, my husband said he felt like I had just "slayed the dragon" that was haunting him for the last two years.
I am thankful for a lot of things that the Lord has done over the last two years to strengthen me to get to this point. God changed me in so many way to prepare me to receive the news. If my husband had told me two years ago, without a doubt I would have left. It was already in my mind to do that. I believe God allowed the truth of the affair to stay hidden for those two years to get me ready to "be like Jesus". It has not been easy and I've been oscillating between anger, pain, and sadness, but I know that the Lord has good plans for us so I am holding on to His promises. When I said during college that I wanted to be like Jesus, I had NO IDEA that this would be the way that I would learn to be like Him. I am also thankful that my husband has fully owned up to his sin, never once placing blame on me. The pride has finally been stripped away from both of us. I'm just glad that we can both finally heal.
My heart goes out to all of the wives who are struggling with a husband who is lukewarm or absolutely cold with his battle over lust. I was there over the last two years. I can confidently say that the Lord was the one who orchestrated all of this in His time because He placed people in our lives for such a time as this. I can confidently say that it took my husband hitting rock bottom with having this affair to finally turn him to God. It happened so quickly and in such a disgusting way that made him realize just how far he was away from God. God allowed this in our lives for some reason. I pray that husbands and wives would be freed from this sin and would not try to hide their struggles with lust.
The truth of my husband's affair was finally disclosed on 12/17/16 after 2 years of being dragged in the dirt. What I mean is that over the last two years I was constantly being "hit" by the symptoms of that affair thru his alcoholism, pot use, masturbation, pornography, and massage parlors. We are on the road to recovery and healing and he has been all out for Jesus after confessing his sin to our pastor, meeting with other brothers, and keeping accountable for his actions just as Mike Genung had recommended. He basically saw the devil incarnate while in the act. And afterward, the woman was sexually abusing him by manipulating him with lies about committing suicide or telling me to get him to keep giving her sex. I believe she was possessed then and continues to be possessed now, even though she says she has "changed" (ultimately I know that that's God place to judge but I don't trust her one bit!). In the shock of what he had done, he didn't think to contact police to keep her from harassing him and in the shame he didn't want to tell anyone what he had done. That encounter was enough to bring him to appreciate me more and kind of come back to God but the guilt and shame was so heavy that he didn't feel worthy of God's love anymore and he didn't want to hurt me so he kept the truth to himself, thinking he'd take it with him to the grave. I confronted her because she was someone I considered a friend. Never in my life would I have thought that the enemy would be that close, to give me hugs, give my children hugs, give our children meals, and give our family tickets as a way to find forgiveness- SICK! I b*tched her out for a good 20 mins before I told her to NEVER contact us again. If she ever does, I'd call law enforcement. After confronting her, my husband said he felt like I had just "slayed the dragon" that was haunting him for the last two years.
I am thankful for a lot of things that the Lord has done over the last two years to strengthen me to get to this point. God changed me in so many way to prepare me to receive the news. If my husband had told me two years ago, without a doubt I would have left. It was already in my mind to do that. I believe God allowed the truth of the affair to stay hidden for those two years to get me ready to "be like Jesus". It has not been easy and I've been oscillating between anger, pain, and sadness, but I know that the Lord has good plans for us so I am holding on to His promises. When I said during college that I wanted to be like Jesus, I had NO IDEA that this would be the way that I would learn to be like Him. I am also thankful that my husband has fully owned up to his sin, never once placing blame on me. The pride has finally been stripped away from both of us. I'm just glad that we can both finally heal.
My heart goes out to all of the wives who are struggling with a husband who is lukewarm or absolutely cold with his battle over lust. I was there over the last two years. I can confidently say that the Lord was the one who orchestrated all of this in His time because He placed people in our lives for such a time as this. I can confidently say that it took my husband hitting rock bottom with having this affair to finally turn him to God. It happened so quickly and in such a disgusting way that made him realize just how far he was away from God. God allowed this in our lives for some reason. I pray that husbands and wives would be freed from this sin and would not try to hide their struggles with lust.
