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Post by Will on Jun 17, 2017 1:10:17 GMT -7
Thanks : )
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2017 16:22:27 GMT -7
It takes time Will. I still have to be careful with what I watch. Just this week I had to say something to my mom about what she was watching on TV. It did get turned over. It amazes me what TV shows can get away with these days. I so wouldn't mind getting rid of the TV... nothing but garbage.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2017 22:00:37 GMT -7
It takes time Will. I still have to be careful with what I watch. Just this week I had to say something to my mom about what she was watching on TV. It did get turned over. It amazes me what TV shows can get away with these days. I so wouldn't mind getting rid of the TV... nothing but garbage. We don't have cable or anything. We don't even watch regular t.v. We watch Christian DVDs and movies. We catch the news on the radio. We review the Christian movies before allowing our children to watch them. Some of those are not really Christian. We find that with no t.v. our kids are more creative and we talk more as a family. I agree t.v. is garbage. As a rule of thumb, if we would not allow our toddlers to watch it, we shouldn't be watching it either.
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Post by Will on Jun 19, 2017 1:15:06 GMT -7
Yeah, good call Lee. My new rule is 'no fiction' (i.e. docos and reality TV - some of it! - are ok). Might sound extreme but it works well for me. The older I get the more I realise how toxic an influence audiovisual media has been on my life.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2017 6:43:12 GMT -7
Yeah, good call Lee. My new rule is 'no fiction' (i.e. docos and reality TV - some of it! - are ok). Might sound extreme but it works well for me. The older I get the more I realise how toxic an influence audiovisual media has been on my life. It has been that way all my life. Satan really uses it to influence us. In a lot of ways the old school way of life is better for us spiritually and physically. I got back into gardening and canning because of that. The junk they peddle as food in the US is just that...junk.
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Post by Will on Jun 20, 2017 2:23:23 GMT -7
Amen!! Could not agree with you more. I think the old school way of life is almost completely better for us! Like in the Garden of Eden at least. They didn't need TV! "Entertainment is the devil's substitute for joy". Read that somewhere and it is so true
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2017 4:17:40 GMT -7
One small thing I'm intentionally doing daily (nightly) to rebuild trust in my marriage is going to bed when my wife goes to bed ~10:30PM or so. I'd spent cumulatively hundreds, if not thousands, of hours in the past staying up until 1AM or 2AM secretly and privately indulging my addiction.
There is one minor annoyance when doing this. Sometimes when I'm getting ready for bed my wife is already in our bedroom watching a show called "Two Broke Girls" carried on our local TV station at that time slot. Nothing but garbage and rampant sexual innuendos that passes as 'comedy' and plunging necklines! I'd let her watch until I'm done brushing my teeth then suggest, "Let's watch the news."
I should just tell her that even catching glimpses of this TV show can do me no benefit in my struggles and I'm sure she'll stop watching this junk.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2017 7:34:34 GMT -7
Wheelie... tell her! I would give anything for my husband to work on things and let me know when he is struggling.... Keep up the good work!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2017 8:03:32 GMT -7
I agree with ghp, wheelie....tell her! Even if she takes it badly, you are being open and honest with her. I get the grumbling reaction all the time but it does get turned over.
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Post by Will on Jun 22, 2017 1:18:44 GMT -7
Yep I agree. And good for you with the going to bed the same time thing. That is really nice and respectful
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Post by Will on Jun 23, 2017 6:21:40 GMT -7
Had a really blessed day today helping with some food ministry. Also trying to get in touch with some sorrow. Wow this intimacy anorexia thing is really something. This applies to me so much! God is slowly healing me with His Holy Spirit, praise God.
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Post by Will on Jun 26, 2017 3:31:19 GMT -7
Well I stumbled again on Saturday. However only for 20 minutes! After a great and spiritual time at the food mission, the next day I was doing fine but of course Saturday morning is my most vulnerable time of the week (tired, exhausted, etc). Watched 'Million Dollar Listing New York' that is a guilty pleasure of mine.- Not fiction, only a reality TV show about real estate. Should be safe. But at the end of the show there's this shot of a women in a bikini. Argh!!
Was not expecting it and it went under my defences. The enemy is such a conniving #######. I instantly searched for a movie that had been playing in my mind but had been resisting for about a week. Watched a few minutes of that then looked at something I had previously downloaded that was a black and white Czech movie from the sixties set in the middle ages. Pretty safe, right? Nope, there's a nude scene right in the middle, of COURSE. The unclean influence led me directly to that scene and within 15 mins had found about 4 other movies on youtube that I knew had nude scenes in.
Thankfully, before I could go any further God spoke to me and prevailed upon me to look to Him only for all my pleasure and happiness, and I was able to switch it all off and put it away.
So frustrating and unnecessary. Ah well, back to square one.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2017 4:49:18 GMT -7
No not back to square one. You turned to God. You turned it off and it did not lead to a full day or even a full hour of binging. Next step is to confess to God, your accountability partner and your spouse. Share and be honest. Look at the situation. Why was your guard down, what to do next time it happens and how to react to it. What was the SUD (seemingly unimportant decision) what was the trigger, how can you avoid that trigger and what is your exit strategy if you encounter it again. Maybe you need to totally avoid television for a while. Maybe you need to block YouTube. If you have filters maybe you need to change the levels, if you don't have a filter it may be time to get one. If Saturday mornings are a weak point then use that time differently. Go into prayer, do some exercise even if you are tired. If you had the movie playing for a week pray to God to destroy that image with holy fire. Pray directly on that subject, ask other people to do the same for you, and clearly in your mind and heart turn your back on it. Thank you for sharing. That is an important part of recovery. Have a blessed day, and remember that God's grace and love is still upon you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2017 8:10:57 GMT -7
Will, you listened to God and turned to Him. That is progress! You are growing in wisdom and strength. Which is shown by your listening and turning to God. Recognizing that you need God more shows how much stronger you are.
Put your armor back on. Learn from what happened and if needed put some new boundaries in your life.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 26, 2017 18:43:37 GMT -7
Hang in their Will... Amy and G are right.. pick up your Armor and maybe block you tube... its frustrating but you turned to God... thats so wonderful... your learning... thats what matters... you CAN and Will do this! I believe in you! Prayers...
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