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Post by Steve on Nov 7, 2005 14:09:59 GMT -7
I'm almost finished reading through Intimacy: A 100-Day Guide To Lasting Relationships by Doug Weiss and I highly recommend it for married couples who struggle with any of the many issues related to intimacy. I'm a single guy and so it was somewhat not the most relevant book for me personally, but it offers quite a few really helpful exercises to do to help couples connect. I've heard quite a few couples who have said they've benefited from this book, as long as both marriage partners are committed to doing some of the daily exercises. Anyway, I'm not a great book review writer, but if you're serious about having the very best in your relationship with your spouse, this would be a good book to check out. There. I'm done plugging this book. It's too bad I don't make commission from typing this!
-Steve
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Post by Deleted on Nov 8, 2005 1:45:11 GMT -7
Yes, I just wanted to echo what Steve shared about this book since my husband and I have used it. It is really a tremendous resource and quite practical. Part of our issues have been dealing with sexual anorexia so for us, this book has been practical and helpful. Like any good resource though, we do need to use it and in this case both be on board with it. When we do, it has helped us both. It isn't necessarily the quick fix to schedule the sexual area of one's marriage or to use the "3 Daily's" (read the book) to communicate and learn to share one's feelings and appreciate one another in a non-threatening manner, but it sure beats tearing one another down, negative communication, or silence, which is sometimes the worst! We do keep coming back to these exercises and they have continued to be a part of the process the Lord has provided over the past 3 or more years of our journey. If wives feel frustrated or despairing that their husbands aren't into doing things like this at present, I'd like to encourage them to pray and ask God to provide and make it clear what He would like for them to read/ do , etc..... right now. Sometimes, it feels our journey is alone rather than with our spouse and God does carry us so wonderfully through these times and become a spouse to us. So, He may have a different book or resource to bless us at that moment, but if this is where you are as a couple, then this book can be the oxygen of Life you need to begin to build something positive back into your marriage as you work through the healing process. This book would be a great investment! Thanks for sharing, Steve! captivated
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Post by Steve on Jan 19, 2006 4:52:07 GMT -7
Thanks for the input, Captivated. I have recommended the "feelings exercises" to many couples and I'm glad that it has worked well for you. The key theme that I usually bring up is that a marriage relationship is a lot like an automobile. It'll run great, but at some point, the principle of erosion is going to set in and things will need to be repaired and replaced. At the very least, we need to make sure that we get oil changes on our cars, right? Well, it's the same way in marriage. One must invest in their marriage with a certain amount of intentionality - Nurturing intimacy (in all its facets) does not happen by accident and its only achieved when two people realize that it's an important goal to work towars. In that light, that's why I think the "feelings exercises" is a valuable tool. Anyway, that's my two cents from a single 34-year-old. I mean, what do I know?! -Steve
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